1) Mabon Prep: Food

Here in Colorado, the Autumn Equinox, also called Mabon, is on September 22nd.  I was originally planning a picnic dinner but I have a baby shower that evening (Yay for babies!!) so I am planning now on a picnic lunch, weather permitting.  Luckily the forecast for next Saturday is partly cloudy with a high of 75 so that looks good.

I am going to keep it simple (my new motto) so I’m going to do this Butternut Squash Soup, which I think I will make the day before, Turkey Legs, and apple pie with ice cream for dessert.  These should be simple enough for me to do and relatively cheap.

Photo courtesy of recipe website

The soup will be a fun thing to try and I don’t know how well it will go over with Monkey and Jason, but I’m still going to try it!  I’ll have to remember to snap a picture of Monkey’s face when he takes his first bite!

Photo courtesy of Google image search and http://www.buzzle.com/articles/cooking-turkey-legs.html

I don’t think I really need to explain why I picked turkey legs because they are pretty self explanatory.  TURKEY LEGS!!! There, I explained it!

Photo courtesy of recipe website

Apples are the main harvest at Mabon, so apple pie is a perfect fit for the Sabbat.  While there is a pick-your-own apple farm in the area I don’t know if I will be able  get there but I will try!  That will go on my ambitious things to do list!

I think for beverages, I will make some warm/cold apple cider.  I have a Kitchen Witch book at home I will look through for that recipe.

Also invited will be my mom and her household and we’ll see what they might bring!

Blessed Be! )O(


Dreamland, Fantasy or Reality?

I started working nights and my husband, Jason, lets me take afternoon naps.  Today during my nap I had a very vivid, very strange dream.

I had just started working with 3 other women who all offered some sort of witchy service.  I don’t remember the services of the other ladies but I read tarot cards.  I was going to be doing a reading for a very close friend of the 3 women.  She was asking about the death of her friend Robert.  I don’t know the exact details but she didn’t believe what she was being told about his death.  As she sat down at my table, a hurricane force wind blew through an open sliding glass door.  I could feel the wind sweep over me and my hair whip across my face.  Pictures were flying off the walls and all of us were scared.  I looked at the other ladies and asked “Does anyone else feel Robert?”  All 4 of them nodded and we knew there was something Robert didn’t want his friend to know.

At that point, Butterfly woke me up so I don’t know what would have happened after that.  But I couldn’t let it end there.  When I got to work, I pulled out my Tarot cards and did a reading on “Dream Robert’s Death”.   Who ever this Robert is/was, if he is real at all, he was a student, a very dedicated student but somewhere along the way he lost his passion for whatever he was studying but continued studying because that was just what he did.  He feels betrayed about some aspect of his death and he is holding on to that feeling of betrayal to stay in our world and not move on.  He is fighting to stay and doesn’t plan on giving up that fight anytime soon.  He seems to be waiting for someone to join him but I don’t see that happening the way he is hoping for.  He seems to be interacting with someone and that person is trying to help him move on but he’s fighting them and their efforts.   Whatever is going on it is not a happy situation for Robert or the person he is interacting with.

I’m not sure what to make of the dream or the reading and don’t know if I want to do anymore readings to get more details.   If this is a real situation and these are real people this doesn’t seem like something I want to get involved with.  This whole thing sounds messy and with strong emotions involved.  But at the same time, if this is real, I was presented this situation for a reason but I have no idea why or what I am supposed to do.  It’s all very disconcerting and that fact that I got such a clear and coherent reading on a person from a dream just make the situation even more strange.  Any ideas or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Blessed Be! )O(

P.S.  I know this blog has gotten slightly off track from my original purpose and I will be doing my best to get it back on track!  I have a Mabon picnic planned for us so that should be a fun post!  Thanks for sticking with me! 🙂

History…I should know this

I found this New York Times blog post on the new biography on Edmund Buczynski and I realized I don’t think I know enough about the founders and pioneers of my religion.  I would like to learn more.  I plan on checking out this biography and would like some recommendations on other biographies I should check out.  Thanks in advance!

Blessed Be! )O(

As a mother, as a woman, as a human being

Spaceships, Pinups, and Feminist Rants


There are a lot of things in this world that seem impossible to change.  This is NOT one of them.   As a woman, this is always something I’ve felt strongly about.  No woman is ever at fault for an assault.  NO.  MATTER.  WHAT.  As the mother of a daughter, everything about this situation terrifies me.  To have your child victimized in such a way and then victimized again because someone places ANY amount of blame on your child is one of my worst nightmares.

I also have a son.  So,  I have the opportunity to do my best to prevent at least 1 man from thinking like this.  When I have more time I will look into SlutWalk!

I have seen first hand how prevalent this belief is.  You can too by checking out the comments section on any rape story on any news outlet.  I once spoke to a commenter who claimed that she had been raped and then said she needed to take responsibility for her actions that contributed to the rape!  I was so angry and so broken hearted that a victim would actually believe that.  To claim any responsibility for an assault takes that blame from the real culprit, the assaulter.  Nothing, NOTHING, you do will ever justify an assault or make it your responsibility in any way!

I want a better world for my children, as do all parents, and doing everything possible to counter act this thought process is 1 thing I, and you, can do to get that better world.  Stay strong and stand up for what is right!  For our future.  For our daughters and sisters and mothers and aunts and cousins and friends.

Blessed Be! )O(

Full Moon Light, Shine Down Upon Us


Blessed Be! )O(

Guest Post: A Catholic Mom

Preface:  I’ve seen several posts recently on WordPress and other pages about people hiding their religious beliefs from people for one reason or another.  Some were tips on how to hide, some were flat out saying don’t hide and some were explaining why they were hiding.  I hid my faith all through out high school and even into adulthood until Monkey was born.  I really wanted my mother to be at his Wiccaning and that isn’t really something you can explain away or hide what it is while she’s there, you known.  This post isn’t trying to tell anyone what to do with their own family.  Every situation is different and you should know your family best, but I thought it would be a good idea to show the other side of the story.  So my amazing Catholic Mommy agreed to write a post for me on her experience of me coming out of the broom closet.

My mom and I at my wedding in my apartment last Samhain/Halloween. Yes that’s her costume, she was a witch, and no the irony is not lost on me!


My daughter is a witch.  My daughter practices Wicca.  However you want to say it, she does not practice the religion she was raised in.  Does this make her a bad person?  Not at this stage.  Will it make her a bad person?  I pray not but only time will tell. 

When Lacey told me that she was a witch I was only a little surprised.  She has always marched to her own drummer.  She has always gone her own way.  I was a little disconcerted because of all the things I heard about Wicca but I have a wait and see attitude about some things.  I was once asked by the mother of a friend of mine on my friends’ conversion from Catholicism to Judaism, how my mother would have felt if I was the one converting.  I answered that I believed that if my mother thought that I very much believed that the conversion was the right thing for me, she would support me.  That is how I feel about Lacey’s choice.  She believes it is right for her.  And that is fine with me.  I may not agree with her choice but I don’t have to agree.  It is her choice. 

I was raised Catholic.  As was her father.  We raised both of our children in our religion of choice.  I am an active Catholic now.  Does it bother me that she does not practice?  No… and yes.  My strong desire is for both of my children to be good people, to care about others and know (and act on) right from wrong.  Does this mean that the only way Lacey can be a good person is to be a practicing Catholic?  No, I do not think so.  (Her father on the other hand, is a completely different story for another time and is most likely rolling over in his grave (as the saying goes.))

The no part – Having been raised in the San Francisco area during the 60s I think of myself as a fairly liberal person.  Lacey is an intelligent person. Free to lead her life as she sees fit.  I do not need to approve of whatever religion she wants to follow.  She does not need my permission. From what I have seen she is not harming herself or her children. She has to know that if I thought she was harming anyone, I would certainly say something.   Her husband is also an intelligent person who is free to think what he wants and at this stage of her life, he is more important  than I am.  She is not pushing her views on me or her brother (not that he would listen very well – too much like his father.)

The yes part – Wicca is very controversial.  As I know the Catholic Church was also at one time.  Those who can find evil in everything will spend hours preaching against it.  Connecting it to Satan and other things.  Does it worry me?  Yes, a little.  I have faith in my daughter.  I have faith (regardless of any religion) that she will continue to act as a good person. 

Lacey is a good person.  She is a good mother.  She has the makings of being a good wife (in my opinion she needs to work on the cooperation and comprise parts .)  She is intelligent. She is a caring person.  These are statements that I proudly make about my daughter regardless of what religion she follows or what gods she worships.  I love having her in my life and I LOVE HER very much.

I love my mom!

Blessed Be! )O(

My first award!! Yay me!

I got my first award and it feels kinda nifty!  Thank you so much to The Bad Witch for the nomination.  You look at Paganism in a much more scholarly way than I do and I love thinking about your post.  🙂

So right to the point because I’m new at this and apparently there are rules to these things:

1. If you are nominated, you must blog a post linking back to the person/blog that nominated you. Check!

2. You must answer some questions, nominate ten fellow bloggers and link their blogs to the post! Check!

3. You should comment on your nominees’ blogs to let them know you’ve nominated them.  Check!

This one comes with specific Questions:

1. Who is your favorite philosopher?

I don’t actually have one.  I like to philosophize but don’t really check out other people’s.  I should probably do that.  I am totally open for recommendations.

2. What is your favorite number?

Five.  That’s how many kids I want because I’m crazy like that.

3. What is your favorite animal?

Butterfly.  They represent everything I want to be.

4. What are your Facebook and Twitter URLs?

My Facebook is Lacey Nichole Deal and while I have a Twitter I think I used it twice and have absolutely no idea what it is.  Also my Facebook is set to private since I have soooooooooooooo many pictures of my kids.

5. What is your favorite time of day?

Whenever I can just sit outside.  It varies from day to day.

6. What was your favorite vacation?

Vermont sometime in the late 90’s.  Huge family reunion!

7. What is your favorite physical activity?

I have to quote The Bad Witch on this one! Sex, duh!  Or swimming.

8. Favorite non-alcoholic drink?

Chai tea with milk and sugar.

9. What is your favorite flower?

White rose or Forget-me-nots

10. What is your passion?

My family and the amazing friends I consider family!

Here are my nominations.  They took me awhile to come up with and there are a few different types of blogs here but I love them all!

  1. Kimi at California Pixie
  2. Ramblings of a Hedge Witch
  3. A very crafty man at Pagan Quest
  4. Witchy Rambles
  5. The photography buffs at Black Widow Honey
  6. A very honest man who sounds exactly like my husband, Shitty Dad
  7. Ariadne at Cauldron and Brew
  8. Renee and Valrie at 2 Witches in a Box
  9. Star Foster at Pantheon over on Patheos.com
  10. And the beautiful shots at Flicker Free

I hope you check them out and enjoy them as much as I do!

Blessed Be! )O(

Lesson’s from someone else’s tree

Ran across this post and thought it made some very good points. As a Wiccan parent, I want my children to be attuned to the spirits of nature and the ones we see on a regular basis should be a large enough part of our lives that if something happens to them it saddens us. However, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and it’s our job to at least look for the reason. Sometimes it’s easier than others, like with this tree, but getting into the practice of finding the positive in the little tragedies can make it easier to find them in the big tragedies. Plus, recycling!!  All that beautiful wood is being used and in wonderful ways! Even if my children don’t grow up to be Wiccan or Pagan, these are the lessons I want them to learn: look for the reason in the bad, respect the world around as a beautiful and sacred thing and recycle.

Blessed Be )O(

P.S. Bob the Builder is helping teach Monkey all about recycling! 🙂

Pagan Quest

Busy weekend about to get started.  A couple of days ago I was given a gift that was also linked to a rather tragic event.  On the side of my house there is a huge Japanese Loquat tree.  The fruit of this tree is small and orange, pear-shaped, and tastes like a cross between a pear and an apricot.  The tree had three main sections splitting off and towering up to the top of my two-story house.  I noticed earlier in the week that there were some brown leaves in one area, and was planning on pruning the dead branches away.  Two days ago however, the entire middle section of the tree broke and fell to the ground.  The leaves and branches were mostly still green and alive, with the exception of the brown ones I mentioned earlier, and the main trunk of this section was still half-way connected to…

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Daily Tea

Yesterday, while catching up on my reading I ran across this blog post by Ariadne.  She talks about different types of daily practices and her last suggestion is tea time.  I LOVE tea!  Yes, the all caps was required for that. 🙂  I usually have at least 2 cups of tea a day anyways but I never considered transferring it from a mundane occurrence to a spiritual occurrence.  This is something that not only appeals to me but is really easy for me to incorporate into my daily life.  So I did.  This morning I brewed my morning cup of tea, got dressed (slightly important for leaving my apartment) and, without shoes, took my cup outside.  Monkey came with me as did Leah the Dachshund.

I sat on the grass and inhaled.  Everything slowed down.  Monkey was still running around like the crazy monkey he is with the dog right behind him but it didn’t destroy the peace, it added a sweet energy to it.  With the fresh cut grass under my bare feet and a hot cup of tea in my hands, everything was right in my world.  As I sipped, I could feel myself open up to the Universe and feel serenity spread through my soul.  It was simple and yet so wonderful.    I felt the connection to everything that I have been looking for and have found before in some of my work.

What surprised me was that it came so easily!  When I felt it before I was deeply mediating or in the middle of a very involved ritual.  The fact that something so profound can come from something so simple amazed me.  I’m starting to think part of my “sticking to it” problem is that I’m trying too hard to do too much.  My life is hectic and money is tight so the elaborate rituals I used to do or take part in aren’t really practical right now.  The Litha walk we took and the energy we raised yesterday were also both very simple and very spiritual and done without a lot of forethought or supplies.  I need to slow down and take this one step at a time.  Wicca with my family is completely different from Wicca by myself and I need to rethink my plan and goals.  It’s amazing what you can discover by focusing the right way on the right thing!

This mug was given to me recently by a good friend and seemed like the perfect mug for magical tea. Especially since I hadn’t used it yet.

Blessed Be! )O(

Brody Bivens: prayers, healing and hope.

I went away but we will come back to that.

I am part of a wonderful group of mothers whose children were all born around the same time as Butterfly.  One of the mothers has a little boy named Brody Bivens, who is only 19 days older than Butterfly and has mitochondrial disease.  I’m not going to go into what that is, you can Google it, but he has a very aggressive form.  He has been fighting this disease since the day he was born and sadly it is looking like, for now at least, the disease is getting the upper hand.  All of our group has been praying and doing everything we can to help given the fact that we are spread out all over the globe.  Brody and his family are currently in Indiana, where they moved just so he could get the best treatment possible.  He is currently in the running to be part of an experimental treatment program and so while we are praying for strength and health we are also praying that he gets into the program.

The kids and I decided to send some healing energy to Brody so we cleaned the living room, pulled out a candle and grabbed the wand.  I wanted to do this as quickly as possible so I used what I had on hand.   I used a small white taper candle, the protection oil I bought for Butterfly and I adapted her protection spell into a healing spell.

First we cast the circle,

“Circle cast three times around

Into the sky and through the ground 

Protect those who gather here

From all doubt, worry and fear 

Fill us with hope, love and light

As we send healing and the will to fight”

Next we anointed the candle and said the spell,

With candle flame burning bright

Heal Brody Bivens, both day and night

By light and love, many days shall he see

Healthy always, So mote it be”

Finally we danced.  We danced until our feet were on fire and our muscles throbbed.  We danced until our hearts sang and the room hummed with our energy.  We drew energy from the Earth and the Sun and we danced in the glory of the Universe.  When we couldn’t dance any more we threw our arms in the air and we sent all that healing energy to Riley Children’s Hospital in Indianapolis, Indiana,  Critical Care Unit; to Brody Bivens, saying the spell again.

I will ask that you pray or send energy or simply light a candle for this amazing boy and his family who need everything they can get.  I could not imagine losing my child and even with Butterfly’s heart condition and open heart surgery the risk, the reality of that possibility is never as real for me as it is for this mother.  Abby, if you read this, we love you and we think about you guys everyday.  Brody, you are amazing and strong and you can beat this. For more information on Brody and his fight, you can check out his Facebook page.

Blessed Be )O(

P.S. We are also writing to the Ellen Show to see if there is anything they can do for this family.